tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post3330575787606685832..comments2023-11-05T07:51:33.598-05:00Comments on Sell Crazy Someplace Else: WaveringJendeishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11960909534349311223noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-73612338294345663012009-02-19T23:23:00.000-05:002009-02-19T23:23:00.000-05:00I can understand some of what you are going throug...I can understand some of what you are going through. I love my dh, but I don't think I've ever been "head over heels!" I've given up alot for him - my father doesn't care for him at all nor does he care to have a relationship with just me. We have a very rare and occasional sex life and it's usually to make HIM happy. We can't have children and we're "older." I'd love to adopt, but he's not on that page yet. I am the only one working and I "get to" pay all of the bills! And most of the chores! My deepest sympathy and I know you'll make the right decisions, etc. for you.MtnGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01882656639070055494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-53772926294851363292009-02-19T07:37:00.000-05:002009-02-19T07:37:00.000-05:00Dealing with IF is extremely hard. It either brin...Dealing with IF is extremely hard. It either brings you together or tears you apart. You have my deepest sympathiesFairionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12168703092479677513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-46398021485679994832009-02-18T18:30:00.000-05:002009-02-18T18:30:00.000-05:00Oh, honey, you know I'm here for you - and I'm rel...Oh, honey, you know I'm here for you - and I'm relatively local, so if you need anything, I can be there. (And, hey, bonus! Totally with the not pregnant, so I'm absolutely your drinking buddy!)<BR/><BR/>I don't know how you know when the right time is to walk away, or when the right time is to keep trying. I think you just... find it in yourself, like that moment in yoga, or when all signs are pointing you where you need to be. I think you just find it. <BR/><BR/>Call me if you need anything, babe. My number's in the TOOTPU googlegroup page.Ms. Perkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06923832430040384294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-91204688478636676622009-02-18T18:04:00.000-05:002009-02-18T18:04:00.000-05:00Marriages/Relationships are tough, and I agree, lo...Marriages/Relationships are tough, and I agree, lots of people in the IF community are going through similar stuff right now. And it sux. <BR/><BR/>I hope you can find a way that works for you, and your husband. But remember, whatever you decide make sure it is ultimately, what is best for you.<BR/><BR/>And I myself have fought the madness that is depression: and let me tell you girl that you are not alone. Never forget it. I am always here willing to have a chat whenever you need it. <BR/><BR/>Jo <BR/>(Here from LFCA: found out you were my "Clicker" today! Woot)princessjo1988https://www.blogger.com/profile/00580408567571903614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-62769858552072168872009-02-18T17:07:00.000-05:002009-02-18T17:07:00.000-05:00I'm really really sorry to hear you are going thro...I'm really really sorry to hear you are going through this - no answers for you, just thoughts.DrSpousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07259337858075146058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-39805674433379245532009-02-18T14:00:00.000-05:002009-02-18T14:00:00.000-05:00There is a lot sucky marriage stuff going around i...There is a lot sucky marriage stuff going around in the IF blog world right now. I won't even pretend to offer advice since I'm in a weird place with my marriage as well. I just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you!Somewhat Ordinaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09701338805685025735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-61619489144095739112009-02-18T13:26:00.000-05:002009-02-18T13:26:00.000-05:00It sounds like it's a tough tough place to be in J...It sounds like it's a tough tough place to be in Jen. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. The thing is, I think at the end of the day you need to be happy - truly happy. Whatever that takes.<BR/><BR/>You're in my thoughts and prayers.<BR/><BR/><BR/>xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-89052680357029373232009-02-18T09:55:00.000-05:002009-02-18T09:55:00.000-05:00It sounds like you are in a very difficult and pai...It sounds like you are in a very difficult and painful situation, jendeis. <BR/><BR/>I am thinking of you, and wishing you strength.Ms Heathenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06404067891155971103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-72935638158187149722009-02-18T00:33:00.000-05:002009-02-18T00:33:00.000-05:00I am here for you.BFFI am here for you.<BR/>BFFAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-62595799194053416132009-02-17T19:48:00.001-05:002009-02-17T19:48:00.001-05:00What worries me is how much harder it is with chil...What worries me is how much harder it is with children. And for you not to have a nervous breakdown, you need a husband who helps. So that aspect alone worries me for your future.<BR/><BR/>I'm just throwing that as another aspect to think about. I can't tell you what to do, as I don't think anyone can. But we will be here to help you with the support when you need it.nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04479202205264710056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-45298607747089418082009-02-17T19:48:00.000-05:002009-02-17T19:48:00.000-05:00Marriage is hard. Mine ain't perfect either. I wou...Marriage is hard. Mine ain't perfect either. I wouldn't presume to offer assvice, but I'm always up for a virtual cuppa tea,<BR/><BR/>xx<BR/><BR/>JGeohdehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09084396088622931768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-21869039709227073512009-02-17T16:58:00.000-05:002009-02-17T16:58:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Much of...I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Much of it sounds familiar to me, as I'm sure it does to many. Your Fairy GM is a wise, wise woman indeed.<BR/><BR/>I won't offer advice, but I will offer something I learned about myself that may or may not help you answer the question of why you haven't left yet. I've been in relationships that I knew weren't healthy and/or going anywhere. I chose to stay simply because I wasn't ready to let the relationships go. It would've hurt too much. But the idea of ending things was like a seed that had been planted: it was always in the background, sometimes dormant, sometimes germinating. And then, when it was time, I was ready. I'd grown accustomed to the idea and already dealt with some of the pain associated with a breakup. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes a person just isn't ready to let go and has to sit with an idea for a while to get more accustomed to it, to see if it feels right. The decision isn't made one way or another and that's okay.<BR/><BR/>Wishing you much comfort and wisdom as you sort out the right path for you.Pepperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776234917145422506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-11003923295217166512009-02-17T14:26:00.000-05:002009-02-17T14:26:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry you are in this situation. I hope yo...I'm so sorry you are in this situation. I hope you find your way soon. <BR/><BR/>((HUG))Chellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02462827829231769285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-62834184016648522032009-02-17T14:07:00.000-05:002009-02-17T14:07:00.000-05:00I'm sending you lots of hugs and prayers that the ...I'm sending you lots of hugs and prayers that the road you need to take will be revealed to you, Pronto!~Holliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02604641853111796521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-75442230335791687152009-02-17T14:00:00.000-05:002009-02-17T14:00:00.000-05:00Sending lots of hugs. I can't imagine how hard it...Sending lots of hugs. I can't imagine how hard it is to make such a huge choice, but know that in the end we'll be here to support you. Regardless.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01313882248458993515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-82617197620147965942009-02-17T13:19:00.000-05:002009-02-17T13:19:00.000-05:00Only you will know if/when you should leave. I wi...Only you will know if/when you should leave. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Remember, though, the only person who can save you is you, and the only person that can save John Dear is himself.<BR/><BR/>((hugs))Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01887360369268725280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-73530439095581862952009-02-17T12:46:00.000-05:002009-02-17T12:46:00.000-05:00Sweetheart, I feel for you so much. Mel is right -...Sweetheart, I feel for you so much. Mel is right - you'll know when you know, and there is no need to rush yourself. This is a huge life decision you are facing. I am hoping you can be gentle with yourself and not judge whatever comes up for you. <BR/><BR/>As always, I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers for peace, clarity, and healing. I want you to be free, too - in whatever form feels right to you.annacyclopediahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10461037288546901657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-58893966856580738122009-02-17T11:57:00.000-05:002009-02-17T11:57:00.000-05:00Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry you're having to go throu...Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry you're having to go through this, having to question and doubt. I have no advice, only kind words.<BR/><BR/>If you need anything (seriously) let me know *hugs* Take care of yourself.Jessica Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06801308494220195403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-18779816757905891322009-02-17T11:33:00.000-05:002009-02-17T11:33:00.000-05:00All I've got for you today is one gigantic *HUG*.T...All I've got for you today is one gigantic *HUG*.<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you.Searching for Serenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17842793601509147918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-17292931762966120342009-02-17T10:22:00.000-05:002009-02-17T10:22:00.000-05:00Sweetie, I don't know when you know the right time...Sweetie, I don't know when you know the right time; when you say it doesn't matter that I didn't leave in the past but I'm going to leave now. I have a feeling it is a lot like that moment in yoga--you simply know that leaving hurts less than staying, even though leaving hurts a great deal. And when both choices look equally bad, I think it's best to wait and see which way the scale tips.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-62721058342766374582009-02-17T10:17:00.000-05:002009-02-17T10:17:00.000-05:00I am so, so sorry. I wish there was a perfect ans...I am so, so sorry. I wish there was a perfect answer and I wish I knew what it was.<BR/><BR/>No situation is the exact same, but my first husband sounds similar to JD - he wanted a mother and not a wife. At one point, my mom told me that he was who he was and he would never change so I needed to decide right there if I could life with that. It was the best advice I ever got.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11509124764568535676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-11863781088164881572009-02-16T21:21:00.000-05:002009-02-16T21:21:00.000-05:00Oh hon... I am so sorry your are going through thi...Oh hon... I am so sorry your are going through this. I have nothing to say but, I am sending some love.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17714298937388763348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-55163481287156083062009-02-16T20:54:00.000-05:002009-02-16T20:54:00.000-05:00This is such a tough spot to be in. There is no e...This is such a tough spot to be in. There is no easy answer. I know I can't say anything to make this better.kirkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05331709444353352373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-12685781388037692682009-02-16T20:46:00.000-05:002009-02-16T20:46:00.000-05:00I'm really sorry. It sounds like no matter what yo...I'm really sorry. It sounds like no matter what you decide, you've dedicated your whole heart and soul to making the best decision for both of you. I'm here...email, phone, in person. Let me know.barrenisthenewblackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00910204609911383629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2598397386529574655.post-9235583635559144972009-02-16T20:45:00.000-05:002009-02-16T20:45:00.000-05:00I am sorry. These topics are brutal. Sending you...I am sorry. These topics are brutal. Sending you the best thoughts I have for youAwkwardMomentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11854477296635420810noreply@blogger.com